More and more I'm hearing females
say "Guys get away with being dogs/assholes/bitches, etc. (choose your
favorite), and it's not fair. I hate the double standard. If guys can do
it, so can I."
Tsk, tsk, ladies.
Seriously though, what
are you thinking? Call me old school but there are gender roles. Ones
that I am very comfortable with. There's a reason why girls are looked
at crazy when they do the same thing as dudes. Because women are
naturally and anatomically "receivers", the fact that you allow a
numerous amount of people "in" it makes you look untrustworthy,
unstable, and frankly, gross. Think about it. You never really want to
go where everybody's been. And if you do, it's only to check out what
the hype's about, not to call it your go-to spot.
Also,
back in the bible times (even currently in parts of the Middle East and
possibly the world) if you had a lot of women, 1) You were rich. You
couldn't have that many women and NOT have some significant cheese, 2)
You were a man of high status. You were THE MAN if you had that many
females in your repertoire. Which meant you had lots of land, property,
livestock, etc. and you had mad kids, which meant your legacy would live
on after the man died, and 3) All those women knew (happily) their
roles. Chick #1 was Main Wifey. Chicks 2-4 were Subordinate Wifeys.
Chicks 5-10 Were Jumpoffs (concubines). In today's society, all of those
notions are still around, for the most part. And all of those things
makes a guy attractive. If you deny this, YOU ARE A LIAR.
Now, the reason why guys
"get away with it" if you will is because they're more naturally
equipped to deal with the backlash of behaving that way. They can very
easily (almost biologically) shut off all emotion and behave in an
almost robot-like state. They do things just to do em. Because they are
not in a position, naturally, to "let someone in". It's second nature.
They are the ones, for lack of a better explanation, doing the
penetrating. All of the "extra" falls on us: should we let him in or
not?
We as women cannot, NATURALLY
(there's a reason why that word is in bold and underlined) do the same.
I say "naturally" because it can be done, but it involves a lot of self
exploration, deep thinking, and having a secure strong sense of self.
We have to consciously put forth a strangely unfamiliar effort into do
something so contrary to our second nature. Once you do that and can be
comfortable, hey, do what you do.
But there is another aspect.
When guys do their worst,
9.99 times out of 10, if they could give less than 4 fucks about what
people will think of/say about them. Again, without that self
exploration, deep thought, and secure strong sense of self, ladies,
sorry to say, we can't do it. We care. THAT'S WHAT WE DO. As much as it
almost shames me to say so, it's the truth. If you could care less,
again I say, do what you do. I can't/won't judge. Some women can do it.
But I will say this, with the utmost confidence:
It will only work UNTIL
YOU MEET SOMEONE YOU FALL FOR. It happens with guys too, but it's harder
for them to fall. Ladies, we have a tendency to fall hard and fast, so
its more likely that the facade won't last as long.
Like I previously stated,
I'm happy with the gender roles and the way that they are. When I feel
emotionally and mentally stable to pursue situations and relationships
like men do, I'll do it. But I'm not gonna fight my hard-wiring, and in
my opinion, women shouldn't either. Because NO GUY will want to be
seriously involved with someone who thinks/acts like him. Fucking/liking
a girl who is in all aspects (except anatomically) a male? NOT
HAPPENING. I say that with confidence and certainty.
And lets flip it around
for a sec. No woman wants a guy who's in touch with their feelings, and
emotional and soft and overtly nurturing (in a womanly, almost motherly
way, I mean), I don't care what she says. When guys say that most girls
want the assholes, there is some truth to that statement. Asshole-ish
guys are just that: GUYS, in the purest sense of the word. And ladies,
we likes. A lot.
I personally don't want
one or the other, individually. I want a nice mix of both. A real
practical true to life guy's GUY who, once you get to know him, and
after he gets to know me and then we get to liking each other and then
deems me trustworthy and lets me in, then he'll show me his nicer caring
side. I'd prefer to be with someone who is more careful about who they
allow to see more intimate sides to them than someone who's
all willy-nilly with it.
"You're cool and pretty. I love you, here's all of me!!"
Um. NO.
Sorry
to put us on blast ladies, but once we are honest with ourselves
and our nature, then and only then can guys can begin to try to
understand where we come from. For some reason, guys know their nature
and embrace it wholeheartedly and use it to their advantage while we sit
back and try to fight who we are, like birds trying to fly a plane. We
already have wings.
FLY.
CuCu
